living rellies

[Jem]

I'm trying to figure our how to find living relatives.

My brothers wife left him in the mid 90's with their son and no-one in my family has heard from them since.

Now that I no longer have anything to do with that side of my family I'd like to find Karen and my nephew Lewis and re-establish contact, we got on really well back then but I can understand why she broke all contact when she left my brother, afterall he's my brother and I have nowt to do with him!

Does anyone have ideas on how to find her,
They were married in Sept 93 in Colchester
Lewis was born in Oct 94

Karen's maiden name was Plumstead, her married name Graham but she might have married again by now.

All idea's much appreciated.

[Sandie V]

Have you tried www.192.com? I think you can do electorol roll searches on there.

[GardenAngel]

Jem, I might be able to help you with this. I found my uncle's daughter who had been missing for well over 50 years - he was in an isolation hospital with TB when she was a toddler, and his wife left town with another man, taking their child with her and leaving no clue as to where they went. My uncle tried to find them but he died before he did. My mum has always wondered what happened to the little girl, and then a couple of years ago I saw a message on Genesreunited from her son - looking for any relatives. She had only found out when her mother died that the man she believed to be her father wasn't her birth dad. We've had some great reunions and my mum and the rest of the family were delighted.

Lots of people post messages on Genesreunited looking for living relatives - if you aren't registered on there I am and would be happy to post a message on your behalf if you would like me too.

Kerry x

[Jem]

Hi Kerry
I'm registered on there so I'll nip over! Thanks, I never even thought of there, I've tried 192 and only got 2 numbers in olchester, I did try one thinking it was her dad, but they said they don't know her. :(

[Flo]

blimey - I thought you were talking about me there for a minute!

just to prepare you - if you do find her you may find that she is wary to re-establish contact

I am in a similar situation, having left my ex and had no contact with him since (except through the courts)

I also used to get on really well with my sis in law - and a year or two back she sent me a lovely letter (via my mum and dad) and said that, like you, she has broken off all contact with my ex/her brother, and she wanted to get back in touch

But I'm sad to admit that, although I really wanted to, I didn't reply to her, because at the back of my mind, frankly, I was scared it was a set up and she might pass on my address to my ex, which was something I couldn't risk happening. I'm 99.9% sure she was genuine - but I had to put my own safety and that of my sons first.

(I might of course be grabbing the wrong end of the stick entirely - but I'm just guessing from what you wrote that it was a DV situation like mine)

[Jem]

{{{{{{{{{{}}}}}}}}}}}}}.

My brother never said and Karen just disappeared one weekend without a word, but knowing my brother I figure that's exactly why she disappeared. I've had no contact with that part of my family for 6 years, my brother now has 2 more sons and a daughter and I really hate the fact that I lose out on my nephew's and nieces because he's such a <Bleep>. I heard on the grapevine that his second wife just left him and can't help wondering if it's for the same reason :(.

[louey0]

This has nothing to do with me, but after reading your threads i am interested, I really hope you find them and have contact with them, also please be carefull. Would love to know how it goes.

Good luck
xx